Leaving someone is definitely not easy, especially when you have been together with the person you love for so long, with the attachment you can’t let go of each other. But if you are unfortunate where your relationship turns out to be a toxic one, this is where you have to think thoroughly and make the decision.
To fix it, leave it or let it be. No one ever wants to experience being in a toxic relationship. For sure there are some people who choose to be in a toxic relationship because ‘love is blind’. Not only for that reason, but there are still many reasons for people to choose to stay in a toxic relationship.
Being in a long term relationship – because of being together with someone you love for a long period of time, makes you think that is it not worth just walking out of the relationship. Hence, just like a normal human being, you will keep giving chances for both of you to improve the relationship. Again and again, when the wrong-being keep repeating and in the end the both of you will be used to it. Accepted the fact it is what is it and just choose to be it. Ignoring the fact that some of the behaviours are toxic and end up in denial.
Being overdependent on your significant other – makes it even harder to leave the toxic relationship. Instead, some people will just close one eye to their significant other’s toxic behaviour and stay in the relationship. Because they couldn’t imagine life without their significant others and also so used to being together with each other.
Afraid of affecting their children’s childhood – nobody ever wants to put their innocent kid in a situation where they have to choose between their parents. Fight for the children’s custody which makes it worst for the children where they have to juggle between both of the parents. There is a possibility for the children to have an insufficient bond with one of their parents because of the custody assigned. The worst part could be the children were being bullied in the school for having divorced parents.
Staying in a toxic relationship to fix it – another reason for people to stay in it because they still have hopes and never want to give up on fixing the relationship. This one goes to the caregiver of the relationship, where one cares too much than the other. They have the never give up spirit and try their best to fix it which leaves them high hopes to stay then fix the problems. It could go only, either way, the couple managed to get rid of being in a toxic relationship or unable to find a common ground and still in a toxic relationship. There is also a possibility where you are focusing too much on the good or positive side of the relationship, then neglecting the toxic part that has been doing no good for the both of you which can lead to a time-to-time argument.
At the end of the day, it is our own choice whether to stay or leave, for a better change or just let it be for the relationship. If you’re looking into being in a long-term relationship with your partner, make sure the decisions that you made were considered for a long term plan as well especially when it involves your partner as well. It takes two to make things work in a relationship, and it also starts from your own self in order to achieve a healthy relationship. You could be the toxic one in the relationship instead of your significant other.