A lot of people out there have no idea if they are in a toxic relationship. What is a toxic relationship? It is when in a relationship, a person their behaviour physically and mentally affected the significant other. It could damage their self-esteem and hold them back from moving forward. It can be identified when controlling, self-centred, insecurities existed in a relationship, which is known as toxic. Hence, people who are experiencing a toxic relationship could mentally and physically traumatise them for a period of time or throughout their life.
Particularly under this pandemic, where domestic abuse cases are rising, not just in our country but across the world. Lockdown being implemented, couples stuck in space together or in a long-distance relationship where they can’t progress much stuff. The word and action are important, which matters as they could affect each other in a way when they start saying something that is negative and could bring down one another. This is where the starting point of the toxic relationship and when it goes deeper, it is hard to fix and damages are made.
In a toxic relationship, there will be negative energy as when two people are together, one or both of them are stuck in the same position, struggling to make any step in their life. Makes it harder for them to try to step out of their comfort zone, and even if they want to they might not receive support from the significant other. Because of being too comfortable for a long time in the same place, when they wanted to step out of the comfort zone and try new things the insecurities appeared, holding them back. Thus, the lack of support from each other that holds the individual back from progressing in their own life and self-growth will create negative energy between each other.
Following trust issues, jealousy and overthinking that exist in a relationship one should think thoroughly about whether to continue being together with another or solve the negative energy within their relationship before it turns out to be a real toxic relationship. In a situation when they are not happy or not supporting your decision of improving your personal growth and out of their comfort zone to pursue their goals that could benefit both parties in the future, one should bear in mind.
Another thing that could also result in a toxic relationship is one being possessive as in controlling everything to one another. In a relationship, it is about trust and understanding. It is different when the significant other is trying to protect you by not letting you do dangerous activities, it is normal because they love you and they are scared of losing you. But if they understand why you want to do that and by doing it will make you happy eventually they will accept the fact, and let you go to achieve the goals because they believe in you.
In another way, if you’re being restricted to talking to your friends or anyone and only allowed to talk to your significant other that is the real problem. You’re not in high school or experiencing some puppy love, this is you lost your own freedom for not talking to anyone but only to a person, your partner. You will start depending too much on him on a daily basis and losing your socialising skills to communicate with people in general. This will deteriorate your identity as a person and anything you would just ask your partner to talk to others. It also may lead to over-depending on your partner where they will find it annoying and this is where the toxic relationship exists.
It takes both ways in a relationship, understanding, being supportive and trusting each other is vital in order to achieve a healthy relationship. It is also good to keep in mind if any of your family or friend that is trying to look after you and told you that there is something wrong with your partner. You have to believe in yourself for making every decision even though if it does not end up well, you will eventually learn from the mistakes. So when it comes to choosing your life partner is really important and might be a sacred thing for some people.